“…I didn’t believe a word, but that’s okay. I knew this was the right thing to do. Funerals, I decided are not for the dead. They are for the living.” Hazel Grace, The Faults in Our Stars (movie).
If you experience dying and death, then you know what this means.
I have lost three close family members, aunts, and uncles, and a few close friends; each and everyone of them were terrible loses. But if there is one thing I realize is that Funerals are for the living and not for the dead. Sure, we might remember them, but the service, well that’s for the living. It provides us, who must continue onward the closure, perhaps some comfort to help us strive to continue life’s journey.
Death, as mortals, is inevitable. We are all going to die one day. We remember this truth, this reality, at times of loss and grief.
In the times when all is good with life, I believe we tend shut it out. We believe we will live forever. I wish this was true, and for a while this seems to be true. The sad reality is that we will not. It is for this reason that I think that we should make the best out of life that we could do – value your love ones, your friends and find your passion. I don’t think we can do more than this.
God, I shouldn’t read sorrowful, heart warming, sentimental books, or watch movies of the same form. After all these weeks, I am still obsessing over The Faults in Our Stars. I am pathetic. LOL.
—Robert Confiant 11 October 2017 (28 March 2018)