I am currently reading You know me well by David Levithan. At one part of the book Kate’s states, “I didn’t choose to be friends with Lehna. Not really. I kind of just fell into it the way you fall into things when you’re a kid in a new school and the first person who pays attention to you feels like such a gift, such an overwhelming relief. You are not alone.”
I concur. For the most part, I think this is true for most people. And while this might be the reality. It is not, so for choosing one’s best friend. The choice of one’s best friend belongs solely to oneself.
There are two types of best friends: lifetime or transient. I tend to have the transient kind of friendships. I don’t have childhood best friend. We either lost touch over time, or moved away, or both. I have moved quite a few times in my life. My friends moved away over time as well.
I have good friends with whom I can pick up where we left up. That’s the closest to a childhood best friend type I have. They have my back and I have theirs.
The thing about friends in the LGBTQ community is they are the closest to family that one can have; since some of us don’t have any family living nearby.
I am lucky, I have more six to eight good friends that I can rely on if needed. I am a rarity. I am an open, honest and hopefully reliable when needed. I make friends easily. Most people can count on one hand the number of those whom are considered close friends.
I also married a person I now consider my best friend. It an unconditional relationship. We are opposites in a lot of ways, but we compliment each other. I know he would never intentionally hurt me, nor I him.
I think everyone should marry their good friend.
— Robert Confiant 30 April 2018