Some of the saddest people in the world are those one would never suspect.
Marc Maron and Jim Norton have spoken of their depression. Marilyn Monroe, John Belushi, Chris Farley and Greg Giraldo all died of drug overdoses. Robin Williams, Kurt Cobain, and, more recently, Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain committed suicide.
One can never really know what a person is feeling, how one is doing. We are all good at presenting ourselves to others. The ‘me’ I show others is what I wish to portrait. No one wants to know our real selves. One does not express their deep secrets to strangers. One would scare others away if you told of your demons on first contact. No, one waits until others have accepted one.
I suffer from depression from time to time. These periods are few and getting fewer. Depression is no longer the prevailing aspect of my life. I only have my bouts with depression, and thankfully, it is not too longer encompassing to me as it once had. I can deal with them. I have learnt how to overcome these dark phases (I do the opposite of what I feel to help me pass through these periods. For example, I go out instead of staying in, socializing instead of isolating myself, I stay in the now and try not to fret about the past or the future, I don’t bottle things in but write or talk about how I am feeling or doing. I have come to accept myself both the good and the bad. I remind myself that no one is perfect, that everyone has something they are battling. These help me to cope.
I cannot judge others. No one know the struggles someone is dealing with. The one thing about depression that those who have never experienced it is that it can be all consuming. The darkness and despair are real – in the moment – they are real. It is everything. It is all consuming. It is difficult for one experiencing depression to see hope; all one feels is despair and loneliness.
If you are suffering, I plead you to seek help.
—Robert Confiant 10 June 2018